I am still trying to get back on track after the break up. I am still going through the cooling off period but there are a few other things I want to try to do before I even attempt to start dating my ex again ! I guess I am still suffering from trauma but this is not going to last long.

Here are some of the things I am going to try before I start all over again ! A friend of mine once said that writing a journal or diary was really silly – as if you did not know what had happened to you ! It is written in every nerve of your body ! I am not so sure though, because I know it helps some people to write things down. What am I going to write down ? Well, it could be fears and feelings and if I have trouble starting this letter or diary I could always try and imagine I am writing to my favourite sister. Writing things down CAN get a person to give vent to feelings of anger and hurt.

I am going to call up friends I have lost touch with – yes, I do feel guilty about that because we were having such a great time (me and my ex) that I neglected my friends a bit. I know, though, that real friends can be counted on so I am going for the chosen few. This is a great way to g
et my mind off THE subject and anyway we can have fun together and enjoy the things we used to do- go to a movie, eat out or whatever. I know that this is going to take my mind off things. Sometimes friends (the real ones) can be great sounding boards and they can tell me a thing or two.

I thought I might get help from a therapist but then I thought of the cost ! Although talking to somebody who is objective can be great I think there a few downsides (apart from the cost). It is going to take at least a few weeks before I am going to see any results and quite frankly , I am getting impatient. Also it might take me a while to click with the right therapist.

I have just had another idea. I am going to do at least ONE thing I love doing every day – that way, I can get really distracted and stop mooching and getting depressed. I figure that this is going to be real help too in showing that life goes on and that I can really enjoy myself without my ex , although I still really do want my ex back – at least I am sure of that now !

This is going to be my short term strategy and it is really short term because I do not want to fall into the trap of a rebound relationship – that would be disastrous. The link below sets out clearly what I have to do next.