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My Ex is Dating Again and It’s Not Me !
- By Mark L. Robertson
- Published 11/28/2008
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Mark L. Robertson
Mark L. Robertson writes on dating and relationships. He recommends The Magic of Making Up as the best program out there. You can find it at http://roblok1.makingup.hop.clickbank.net/
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I knew it would happen. I found out last night that my ex is dating again. Of course I have been doing the same ! But this shook me to the core and I got a little upset. Thought of ringing my ex but then looked at the post-it on the fridge door and I am still in the cool-off period and there is a no contact agreement between me and the forces that be.
I went through the call I would make. Then I pulled myself together. If I do that, then my ex is going to put up a brick wall and it is going to be even harder to get them back. Also it would look as if I am desperate ( I am a bit, but being very rational and calm ).
Then I calmed down and went through what that actually means for my ex and what they are going through right now. So, looking on the bright side, as my Dad used to say, I came to the following conclusions :-
1. My ex can’t be that comfortable going out with this ‘newbie’. Unless it is an old flame….. in any case they cannot have the same history that WE had.
2. My best friend says that anybody on the rebound rarely really make it to having a long-lasting durable relationship. Now, really looking on the bright side, they tell me that 90% of those rebounds never last.
3. That means I have to play it really cool and not get desperate or panicky again. If I keep
my cool, I can really strengthen my position and have a very good chance of winning back my ex.
4. Another comforting thing is that because it has been a few weeks now, my ex will be getting nostalgic about our relationship. I bet my ex is thinking of all the great times we had together ( actually so am I !). This is another advantage for me because any newbies on the scene will hardly measure up.
Now that I have gone through all these things in my mind – I feel much better – feel almost like having a glass of champagne but not just yet. Victory is still a bit far off but I am getting there.
Also my ex will be probably missing the comfort of our relationship and it will feel like wearing new uncomfortable shoes!
Thinking about rebounds I know that they are not really ideal for forming a long lasting affair. After all, break up casualties are a little battered and bewildered. They cannot make reasoned decisions and will be a little blinded just so that they can put it all behind hem and in doing so, they may omit to notice some glaring defects.
Now I have to play it really cool and although I may meet somebody interesting in these few weeks I am not going to jump in at the deep end - I want to be fairly casual and I am not making any long term commitments with anyone – except my ex. So now I am ready for the next stage of reconnecting at last with my ex. The next steps are in the link below.
I went through the call I would make. Then I pulled myself together. If I do that, then my ex is going to put up a brick wall and it is going to be even harder to get them back. Also it would look as if I am desperate ( I am a bit, but being very rational and calm ).
Then I calmed down and went through what that actually means for my ex and what they are going through right now. So, looking on the bright side, as my Dad used to say, I came to the following conclusions :-
1. My ex can’t be that comfortable going out with this ‘newbie’. Unless it is an old flame….. in any case they cannot have the same history that WE had.
2. My best friend says that anybody on the rebound rarely really make it to having a long-lasting durable relationship. Now, really looking on the bright side, they tell me that 90% of those rebounds never last.
3. That means I have to play it really cool and not get desperate or panicky again. If I keep
4. Another comforting thing is that because it has been a few weeks now, my ex will be getting nostalgic about our relationship. I bet my ex is thinking of all the great times we had together ( actually so am I !). This is another advantage for me because any newbies on the scene will hardly measure up.
Now that I have gone through all these things in my mind – I feel much better – feel almost like having a glass of champagne but not just yet. Victory is still a bit far off but I am getting there.
Also my ex will be probably missing the comfort of our relationship and it will feel like wearing new uncomfortable shoes!
Thinking about rebounds I know that they are not really ideal for forming a long lasting affair. After all, break up casualties are a little battered and bewildered. They cannot make reasoned decisions and will be a little blinded just so that they can put it all behind hem and in doing so, they may omit to notice some glaring defects.
Now I have to play it really cool and although I may meet somebody interesting in these few weeks I am not going to jump in at the deep end - I want to be fairly casual and I am not making any long term commitments with anyone – except my ex. So now I am ready for the next stage of reconnecting at last with my ex. The next steps are in the link below.